36 questions to ask your spouse before getting married
Marriage is designed to be a journey to forever. If you want to commit to spending forever with anyone, you want to be sure it is with the right person, and to be sure of who this “Mr or Mrs. Right” is, you must be willing to ask the questions that seem to be most scary, weird and uncomfortable.
If you’re planning to get married, the sooner you begin to ask the right questions, the better. Questions give clarity and asking thought-provoking and meaningful questions will give you clarity and understanding of your partner and provide them an opportunity to share their viewpoints.
This will help you both be more informed, which makes it easier for your relationship along the way.
Before heading down the aisle, there are some questions that you should ask your spouse.
This article will help you to quit asking random questions like “what is your favorite color” or what is the name of your pet, and start asking more relevant questions.
I have put together some great questions that you MUST ask your spouse before you consider getting married to them.
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How do you react when your partner gets you upset?
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What are your long-term goals?
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What is your attitude towards spending?
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If you were to live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
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Do you want to have kids? If yes, how many?
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Are you open to relocating to a new country, or state?
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How often are we going to have sex?
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Who is the one person you can easily talk to when you feel anxious, scared, or upset?
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Are you in active communication with any of your exes?
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What is the one thing that is most important to you?
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When you are upset, would you rather talk it out immediately, or do you need time alone?
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How much alone time do you need?
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What do you think of couples that sleep in separate bedrooms?
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What are your financial goals?
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What do you think about couples that have joint accounts?
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How do you deal with Failure/Rejection?
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How would you want me to communicate love to you? (Love language)
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Do you have any history of mental illness in your family?
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Are you comfortable initiating sex?
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Have financial issues ever been a factor to make you end a relationship?
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What sexual activities do you enjoy the most?
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How would you feel about my body if it gets bigger?
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Do you know how to say sorry when you are wrong?
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Do you have any sexual fantasies?
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What is the hardest thing to talk to me about?
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Are your family members going to live with us after we get married?
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How long will it take you to get over a disagreement?
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Are you ready to commit to getting married?
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Do you have any addictions you are currently struggling with?
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Why do you want to get married?
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How do you act when you get mad?
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Do you have a house? If not, what will our living arrangements be like?
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Do you have any insurance?
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Is religion important to you? Why or Why not?
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How would you do if we are unable to bear children of our own?
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Are you in any form of debt?
Marriage is a big step and one many couples want to take. It’s not something that you take lightly and it’s important that you prepare yourself for before jumping in.
Being able to talk through personal, financial, and family goals is essential to the overall health and strength of any relationship.
Asking these questions can help you avoid common pitfalls that many couples experience.
Ultimately, the better you know your partner, the happier you will be in your marriage.
Conclusion: It is highly recommended for every couple to go through Pre-marital counseling before getting married as your counselor or therapist will help you point out questions that you may have thought are not so important to ask and equally help you discover new things about your spouse, and you get to learn how to resolve cases where they may be a conflict of interest and listen to advise from an expert.
Are you planning on getting married, or you just got engaged and you are confused as to how to go about pre-marital counseling, Send me a DM @comfortcirclemft
ROSEMARY POWELL, MS, LMFT
Psychotherapist | Marriage & Family Therapist
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